Consent must be free and voluntary. Marriage or relationship status does not remove the right to say no.

Sexual activities imposed on a young person/child by any person in their direct or extended family. The offender is either a family member, including father, uncle, brother, grandfather, or nephew, or someone with the care of the child such as a step parent, de facto spouse, or foster parent.

Any unwelcome sexual attention including unwanted patting or touching, humiliating and suggestive comments about one’s body, appearance or private life, display of, or exposure to offensive material. The law prohibits these acts – including at your place of employment.

A child sexual offence is an offence of a sexual nature committed against a child and includes:

• Indecent treatment of a child

• Engaging in penile intercourse with a child under 16

• Rape

• Incest

• Grooming a child (or their parent or carer)

• Making child exploitation material

• Repeated sexual conduct with a child.

Indecent treatment of a child covers a range of conduct of a sexual nature. Examples may include:

• Fondling a child in a sexual manner

• Having the child touch the genitals of another person

• Taking a sexual photograph of a child.

Grooming a child (or their parent or carer) refers to the way some offenders form relationships and build trust with children, parents, carers, teachers and other children in order to get close to a child and create the opportunity for sexual abuse. It can be difficult to identify because the behaviour itself may not be abusive or sexual. Grooming can often occur online.

Rape means vaginal and/or anal penetration with the penis without consent. Rape also means penetration with another body part or foreign object, and forced oral sex. Rape is about power and control, not about sex. Rape is a criminal offence. Rape is never the victim’s fault. Perpetrators are always responsible for rape.

Is a brutal form of abuse of children, adolescents, and adults consisting of physical, sexual and psychological abuse, and involving the use of rituals. Ritual abuse usually entails repeated abuse over an extended period of time.

Sexual violence by someone who is not a partner.

FACT • Police statistics suggest that ‘false’ reporting of sexual assault is minimal, representing 2 to 7 % of all reported assaults. It is a reality that victims of sexual assault are more likely to remain silent about the assault than to report it. 

This myth protects rapist, as the victim is likely to be met with disbelief.

FACT • This myth suggests there is something in the psychological make-up of the victim, which distinguishes her from a non-victim. This creates confusion and guilt in survivors when they are blamed for what has been done to them. 

This myth divides women from each other, creating stereotypes of women who are raped and those who are not. 

Women who are sexually assaulted are accused of dressing or behaving “provocatively”. Friendly behaviour, acceptance of car rides and entering houses alone with a male are rationalised as signs of consenting to sexual assault. The focus on the victim’s/survivor’s behaviour shifts responsibility away from the rapist.

FACT • Most rapists are ‘ordinary’ men from all socio-economic classes, professions, and nationalities. 

Studies have found the overwhelming majority of offenders are not psychologically ‘perverted’. 

Rapists most often have the option to choose sex within a standard relationship, but choose rape because it is motivated by feelings other than those involved in consensual sex. Their motive is the need for power and the wish to humiliate and degrade others.

FACT • Men do not have uncontrollable sexual urges. In fact, men can stop themselves at any stage during intercourse. 

No sexual urge ever gives a man the right to rape a woman or child. 

Furthermore, most rapes are premeditated and well planned, rather than ‘spontaneous uncontrollable sexual acts’.

FACT • Incest occurs in families of every description. Research indicates there is little which markedly distinguishes between the families where incest takes place and the families where  incest does not occur. 

The only distinction between ‘offending’ and ‘non-offending’ families is the degree to which the ‘normal’ nuclear family roles are enacted. For example, in those families where incest takes place, the male breadwinner is likely to be undisputed as ‘head of the household’ with the wife and children under his dominating command.

FACT • Incest is not acceptable anywhere, under any circumstances. Hewitt (1986) found no evidence ‘either in available literature or from individuals from a range of cultural backgrounds’ to support this belief.

FACT • Women are subject to sexual assault indoors, outdoors, at night and during the day. 

64% of reported sexual assault victims in Qld in 1995 were assaulted in a private dwelling, while 10% were assaulted on a street or in an open space.

In over 80% of cases, the attack was conducted by someone known to them e.g. the women’s fathers, relatives, friends, husbands.

FACT • Consistent with the findings of relevant research, those who work with sexually abused children strongly support the view that children rarely lie about incest. 

The facts show that children are more often reluctant to disclose what is happening to them. When they do disclose, they tend to underplay the effects of the incestuous abuse in an attempt to protect their family.

FACT • No one enjoys sexual violations. 

Fundamentally, sexual pleasure requires mutual negotiation, informed consent and equality of power – the antithesis of rape. 

This myth reduces rape to an experience which is trivial and inconsequential when in reality sexual assault always involves coercion and often carries with it the threat of injury, mutilation or death.

FACT • There is no ‘typical’ victim. Men who sexually assault are not seeking someone who is sexually ‘attractive’ but rather someone whom the rapist perceives to be vulnerable, passive and easily controlled at the time of the assault. 

Research studies have shown that women and children from a wide range of ages and levels of intellectual, physical or developmental ability have been sexually assaulted. 

Similarly, research and police reports demonstrate that victims/survivors of sexual assault range from month old babies to 97 year old women. 

It is clear that the stereotype of ‘attractiveness’ does not provide the primary motivation behind sexual assault.

FACT • Wherever there is an imbalance of power, its abuse is always an option available to the more powerful. This is as true for sibling incest as it is for adult-child incest. The power difference may be reduced in sibling incest but it is still the product of differences in age and gender.

Although the incidence of sibling incest is least reported, there is a growing awareness that it is perhaps one of the most widespread forms of incest. The fact that it so under-reported is directly linked to attitudes that sibling incest is merely a part of normal developmental sexual exploration between siblings. However, it can be exploitative and harmful.

FACT • The offenders choose to commit the crime of incest. In order that the crime goes undetected, the offender forces to coerce the victim into silence. 

It is this imposed silence, the secrecy, which perpetuates incest, and not the mother’s ‘collusion’.